What are you Values or Principals that you live by in your life?
Have you ever had a conversation that reminds you of your past?
I am not talking about a fun time, a vacation, a bad time….. but a place in your past that you have a fundamental built in response, feeling or desire not to violate. I was having a moment of reflection…okay a few days. Wondering where and why my life is what it is….
This is going to be a very personal set of experiences that I am going to share, some I have only shared with only a few people in my life.
Why am I doing this? Well I think its time to share a vulnerable side, a side we all that we all have, yet are afraid to show, share or even feel. Face it up till the mid 70’s and partly in to the 80’s men where men, then something happened their roles changed, women became more dominant and a new women’s movement forged ahead. That’s great, but the men, some were surprised, some moved to a place of “Metro” (still haven’t figured that one out), others a place of ‘coming out of the closet’ for both, sexually and now we have androgyny, bisexual and transexual.
I wonder if the human element is so desperate to be noticed that it needs to go to extremes in a violently outspokenly way of demanding equal rights or just to be noticed, maybe to find who they are by forging forward instead of reflecting?
I am not coming out of the closet, nor have I ever been in on figuratively, but as the last 2 generations I have set forth, I can understand a loss of desire to know who I am and I am sure we can all related to that. Some philosophers state ‘we must go back to discover the road we are on today, look at the choices, our environments then, which path led us to who we are today.’
This made sense to me, so I started thinking of personal place where I saw growth and as you know failure that hampered confidence in making choices in my own make up to get me to the person I am today.
Can you relate? Think about some of the choices you made, the regrets, the obvious things that you could have done, we all know hindsight is 20/20, right?) You or I might have caved to peer pressure, fear of getting in to trouble or didn’t care to get and trouble or didn’t think of what would happen if caught. Maybe I or you didn’t see the fun or what it could do for us…perhaps it was just too much work.
I am going to go there. I hope you join me if not in a reply, but your own silent reflection….I suggest in front of a mirror, looking yourself in the eyes.
I am doing this to have a new experience to live in a place of facing my own emotions, to gain strength and confidence through being openly vulnerable.
“You must be nuts?“
“Why would you do such a thing?“
“Aren’t you afraid of the repercussions, how you might be viewed?“
To all of those who have these questions and more…. maybe you’re not in the place yet, where you can see strength in or be open about who you are. How you became the person, the values, principles and much more that you define yourself. This is only a challenge to yourself, no one else.
My first Share
I am (as of this post) 44 years old, the eldest of 5 kids and the only one not married or to have kids. I currently have 7 nieces and nephews and in 2 separate previous 8+ year relationships, not only was a father helping to raise a total of 4 children, I had an amazing experience of learning what unconditional love is… I mean really what it is…. Parents who read this know what I am talking about.
So let me share the list and with each post I make, a story will unfold, about my life. Maybe you will relate, maybe you won’t and some of you just won’t care.
So here is the Boy Scout law (some changes will be noted on each page)
[su_dropcap]T[/su_dropcap]RUSTWORTHY: A scout tells the truth. He keeps his promises. Honesty is part of his code of conduct. People can depend on him
[su_dropcap]L[/su_dropcap]OYAL: A scout is true to his family, Scout leaders, friends, school and nation.
[su_dropcap]H[/su_dropcap]ELPFUL: A scout is concerned about other people. He does things willingly for others without pay or reward.
[su_dropcap]F[/su_dropcap]RIENDLY: A scout is a friend to all. He is a brother to other scouts. He seeks to understand others. He respects those with ideas and customs other than his own.
[su_dropcap]C[/su_dropcap]OURTEOUS: A scout is polite to everyone regardless of age or position. He knows good manners make it easier for people to get along together.
[su_dropcap]K[/su_dropcap]IND: A scout understands there is strength in being gentle. He treats others as he wants to be treated. He does not hurt or kill harmless thing without reason.
[su_dropcap]O[/su_dropcap]BEDIENT: A scout follows the rules of his family, school, and troop. He obeys the laws of his community and country. If he thinks these rules and laws are unfair, he tries to have them changed in an orderly manner rather than disobey them.
[su_dropcap]C[/su_dropcap]HEERFUL: A scout looks for the bright side of things. He cheerfully does tasks that come his way. He tries to make others happy.
[su_dropcap]T[/su_dropcap]HRIFTY: A scout works to pay his way and to help others. He saves for unforeseen needs. He protects and conserves natural resources. He carefully uses time and property.
[su_dropcap]B[/su_dropcap]RAVE: A scout can face danger even if he is afraid. He has the courage to stand for what he thinks is right even if others laugh at or threaten him.
[su_dropcap]C[/su_dropcap]LEAN: A scout keeps his body and mind fit and clean. He goes around with those who believe in living by these same ideals. He helps keep his home and community clean.
[su_dropcap]R[/su_dropcap]EVERENT: A scout is reverent towards God. He is faithful in his religious duties. He respects the beliefs of others.
These 12 laws I grew up by, helped to shape my life, probably keep me on the straight and narrow, out of prison, not to use drugs or be a womanizer, rapist or a killer. In other words where my parents were absent or missing in my life, I was learning morality from a historically old club that worked on turning boys in to men.
So if you read straight through to this, go ahead and scroll back up to each to read about that Boy Scout Law and the link a story in my past that led me to who I am today.
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